Comments on: Are You a Male Nag?

By: Babydoll

Babydoll — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 03:18:42 +0000

My husband nags and berates our children and myself. Nothing is ever good enough for him. The children and I know we aren’t going to please him, so we have basically given up. There are things that the children don’t do (clean their rooms, go to bed on time, etc…) that needs correcting but the nagging is not fixing the problem. I can’t make my husband see that. He puts down the children all the time and sends the wrong message to them. I know he doesn’t mean to come across the way he does but he comes across negative anyway. How can I help him change this negative behavior?

By: Steve

Steve — Fri, 13 Jul 2007 01:00:55 +0000

Ok..I agree that it is a myth that only women nag or that they nag more than men. I also agree that you should not constantly harangue your partner when something doesn’t change. HOWEVER, not all nagging is a desire to be a control freak. What happens when there is a significant issue that the other partner refuses to change or even acknowledge ? What happens if you have tried being understanding, talk gently and respectfully, tried to resolve the issue by just changing things (such as changing conditions for someone who is constantly late) without nagging them (and getting rude reactions anyway) etc. I agree nagging is just plain irrational and immature but I shouldn’t have to walk on eggshells and treat my wife like a wilting violet if the issue is serious either. I would like to treat her like an equal.

By: Patricia

Patricia — Sun, 06 May 2007 11:01:28 +0000

I loved the article. It is seldom that a man will think himself a nag. That “tag” seems to be (to them) for women only. My husband puts me down about my driving, the way I conduct business, the foods I prepare, the fact that I’m generous/giving, and even has been known to criticize me for loving all races of people. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I thought these were Godly qualities. I was able to perform to satisfaction for the Joint Chiefs of Staff when I was working, but not my husband. He watches my every word when I’m talking with a client or perspective client with (I believe) a critical eye. I have asked him to give my talents, my successes, my good points equal attention, but he seldom gives me positive feedback, only negative. Help!

By: Des

Des — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 22:14:45 +0000

VERY GUILTY. I nag my wife about things and at the same time when they aren’t getting done I tend to put the most trivial things above them. This is what is gonna help me change and I thank you for putting this up.

By: Genie

Genie — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 18:31:31 +0000

Love this article. Now I Know what the problem is with my Hubbie, I just thought he was boring me to death, Now I know he’s actually “Nagging” me to death. Now I just need to learn how to deal with it so I don’t shut him out completly. Before it gets to late.

By: David

David — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 15:29:47 +0000

Convicted. I hate to admit it, but I am a male nag. God bless my wife for her patience – it seems to be tested daily. Through humility, faith in the Lord, and a desire to change I pray my wife and daughter will be blessed. Thank you for this article as it is a good reminder!