Comments on: 14 Date Ideas She’ll Love

By: pennie

pennie — Mon, 20 Aug 2007 15:34:14 +0000

ladies or men, just do what i did, my husband doesn;t like to go out much either, but last september we celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary.when he went to work i packed some bags and took my husband to the embassy suite for the weekend, he had no idea where we were heading, i told him we were going out to lunch.of course i was driving so i just kept going out of town until we arrived at our destination. i wined and dined my husband.and boy did we have a ball, you figure out the rest.if you want to surprise your spouse, just do it, they will be glad you did, believe me.

By: veronica

veronica — Sun, 24 Jun 2007 04:17:12 +0000

my husband’s idea of a date night is showing up and eating a dinner i cook, then falling asleep shortly thereafter. he may talk, though it is mostly about himself.
i have made a box of surprise date cards so we can take turns at hosting new date ideas together, though he often doesn’t follow through with actually making the date happen.

his idea of intimacy is alternating between short periods of telling me i am his “fantasy woman” then not touching me for weeks on end, though out in public his head turns at almost every woman that walks by. i read once that eye contact with the opposite sex is often seen as an invitation, and he is very much into eye contact with women who are younger and attractive, very often with a big inviting smile. however, with me, he barely looks up when i try to talk with him. i caught him with several profiles on myspace, all which he lied about.

men…please tell me what you feel he is thinking…i am open to dating him, intimacy, new adventures. i am an attractive woman. i was never lacking for dates before we met, and after three kids at age 39 (one just 10 mos old) i have dieted & exercised and gotten back down to 121 lbs. he claims he is a great christian husband. but i feel i am pursuing him all of the time (at this point in a desperate attempt to keep things together) and he is often a host of complaints.

to make matters worse, he has a very overbearing mother (and father…and sister) who insist upon coming between us whenever possible. he never seems to have let go of his clingy, desperate, jealous mother, who has everyone thinking she is just a sweet old lady who only wants togetherness. when she gets the togetherness, she makes it a living nightmare for me and the kids, and we leave every visit feeling ill.

i have tried counselors. he is happy to go, but simply lies about the important details that matter and whitewashes over the problems, so i end up looking like i have this perfect husband in a great marriage, and they wonder what i am talking about…so i have given up on that approach.

oh, and he has a big anger problem…a “volcanic temper” as they call it, which comes out every several months, especially when the topic of his mother arises. i have learned to let it go out of fear of his explosions.

any insight would be so very appreciated. thank you.

By: Amy H.

Amy H. — Thu, 21 Jun 2007 16:23:34 +0000

Very good suggestions! I want to suggest these to my husband, but maybe he has menopause? Anyone know? I want my marriage to be much better than what it is. So I guess I will try this now. Thank you.

By: Brad

Brad — Thu, 31 May 2007 11:54:24 +0000

I wouldn’t really try these things until you are both in a good mood. If she is really upset with you, then forcing yourselves to be together seems like a disaster.

For guys who can’t get their wives to go, I would take the time to ask her something about herself. Ask her about a childhood dream… or a favorite childhood friend. Get her to open up a little. If she starts complaining about someone or something then just take her side and agree with her.

After she is finally done talking, I bet she’ll be warmed up to a night out with you.

By: norma

norma — Tue, 29 May 2007 23:42:04 +0000

Wayne,in your defense I’ve asked my husband when we will go on a date and his responses are just like the ones you get.I would like to go on a date with my husband. We both work all day and both of our boys play baseball.Basically our dates are from one baseball game to another. I also find it hard to have 14 dates.

By: Wayne

Wayne — Sat, 26 May 2007 12:06:29 +0000

Your 14 dates may be fine,but I cannot get my wife to go out on one date,much less 14.Most of the time she is too tired or does’nt feel like it,or we do’nt have the money.

By: Bartholomew

Bartholomew — Fri, 25 May 2007 11:39:43 +0000

The 14 dates ideas are great and have openeed my eye to make my outings better. I hope my wife will enjoy it. takn long to be out with her but this day makes a difference as w experiment.

Thanks

By: frank

frank — Fri, 25 May 2007 03:00:29 +0000

i haven’t even read the other responses but all i can tell you is that we did most of these things and she divorced me anyway. once a woman hits menopause there is no rhyme or reason to anything they think, do or say!

By: Sean

Sean — Thu, 24 May 2007 21:27:00 +0000

There are way too many ideas to list! But the most important is for both husband and wife to set aside regularly-scheduled date time and not allow anything to interfere. For example, setting aside every Friday night would be a great idea. And then, I suggest taking turns planning the date, looking for something more creative than dinner and a movie, although that’s okay once in a while, too.

By: Sean

Sean — Thu, 24 May 2007 16:09:08 +0000

My wife doesn’t seem to want to spend any time doing anything like that. The few times she has agreed to go to a concert (her musical choice), she complains about the money, or the show, seats, etc., etc.
How about an article on how to get your wife to get a clue about the efforts the husband is making to make the life better and not to complain about EVERYTHING.