Comments on: Her Past & Your Future Together

By: John

John — Tue, 08 May 2007 23:37:50 +0000

Where was this article all this while? It seems this article was directlly channelled to my case. I use to have terrible arguments with my partner nearly every day until I came across this article and apply the method of listening to her and putting myself into her shoe, then I start discovering her inside as well as my. Thanks….

By: Jayden

Jayden — Mon, 07 May 2007 16:30:22 +0000

The information you shared here helped me understand why after a twenty year marriage things went down hill over a long period of time instead of the perception of it going bad very quickly. I never understood that a persons childhood experiences have such a drastic effect on their marriage even twenty years into it. In our case I still see light because with my spouse, who by the way we are in the middle of divorce, I still see the beautiful person who I met twenty one yaers ago, and all of the bad parts of our marriage just don’t seem that bad. My spouse is more beautiful than ever because of all of the good and bad times we shared and the difficulties we stood against and even the knowledge of who we both have become. I do believe in soul mates and I had mine for twenty years and they are (even with both of our short commings) the most beautiful person I could hope to be a part of their life. Thank you for those yaers and I pray you find what you are looking for….I found what I was looking for twenty plus years ago. God Bless….

By: Mike

Mike — Sun, 06 May 2007 14:00:58 +0000

Great insight! Often times we rush in with our eyes wide SHUT. We during our courtship will see this differences; and during the infacuation stage of romance, be thoroughly convinced that it is different between you. After 27+ years of marriage and 2+ years of dating; it seems that it is only now that these type of issues are comming to the forefront. Perhaps it is the fact that the children are all now leaving the nest and there is time to focus on these issues. Or perhaps they have just become too previlent to be ignored. It is helpful to have this insight and perspective; so that communication and connection can be made with more accuracy. Thank you for helping to make sure that the “Big Picture” is there to keep us from making one thing or the other; all things.

Mike

By: Susan S.

Susan S. — Sun, 06 May 2007 13:18:06 +0000

I know that this article was intended for men ,but when I read it I realized my marriage didn’t begin to heal until I told him I was sorry for not knowing how to treat him in the role of father &husband.I didn’t have a father figure or a good picture of a husband to my mother. My mother was the mom ,dad , & every thing. Ipushed him out ,Expected him not to be there.I realized it ,admitted it & things changed.The article is true!

By: robert

robert — Sun, 06 May 2007 11:38:52 +0000

After 30 years of marriage we are at the point where battle fatigue may be the reason for the peace in the marriage. I can list her problem areas and have articulated them in detail as well as disussed them until blue in the face with what needs to change and it does not happen. She has refused to change, improve or even work on it. She just keeps apoligizeing all the time.

Compounded by the fact that she is medically disabled and retired in a wheel chair with MS makes old issues to be more pronounced and addes a long list of new issues most marriages don’t face.

So I am at the point where I have been asking myself why do I want this stress in my life? The anwser is my faith and my promises I made which puts me between a rock and a hard place. Somday soon I will break the rock.